I was babysitting a 6 year old for her dad. She makes a comment to a black child's mom "my mom won't let me play with black kids". The black mom tells me I don't know how to raise my children right. She calls me racist. I tried to tell her that I wasn't the girl's mom. She wouldn't listen. I can't change how they raise their child. Given some space maybe she will see that not all blacks are bad. She knows what she's told (mom says not to play with blacks) & what she sees (her black neighbors bully her & recently broke into her house, black lady is yelling at my babysitter).
I have been wrongly accused of being racist & humiliated for something that is out of my control. I teach tolerance & respect to my kids. We have black friends. I teach black children. It is so frustrating to be treated like this!
Don't kill your allies in the process of defending yourself from the enemy.